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@Kev40 Thanks for your kind words honestly means alot : ). 

There become's a point when your health is more important and the last thing I want is for my debt's to spiral as you have described here. Luckily for me I've got time to correct the mistake and hopefully move on to the next chapter within my life. Don't get me wrong it's not going to be easy but I'm hoping that I can find new hobbies and stuff to pass the time because if it wasn't for gambling money wouldn't be an issue and if I carry on I know i'm going to mess up my life a lot more than I already have

 

To be honest I can't dwell on the past... it's in the past (I hope) I'll take it one day at a time and keep my thread updated to let you all know how I'm getting on

 

Cheers for the support

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Yes things are heading in the wrong direction Alfie but you are still just a young lad, the main thing here is you have identified by yourself you have a problem so that's a big positive, amazing how things can go from FUN to out of control and believe it or not when you were playing games with your old man that would have been the start and the gambling seeds were planted, over time those seeds germinated and were getting out of control but it's great that you have recognized the issue.

The TGC site has a few members that are pretty much the very same age as you and have very similar stories but hopefully you will now listen to a few of us older boys that can drum some sense into you, firstly you have age very much on your side and so much living in-front of you mate,  YES you maybe not like it when i say you really are just a boy but you are mate, these are the days you should really be living and having fun with pals and just embracing the good things in life and you can by getting a grip NOW not in the future.

You can easily pay what you owe now back in no time at all and as I've said before to a few people RIGHT now you only need a shovel to fill in that hole you've made, BUT if you keep going that hole will get bigger and wider and before you know it You'l need a JCB.

Many older guys on this site would do anything to be 21 again including me,  I spent a lot of my youth going in and out detention centers then eventually various prisons and even today those times have always returned to haunt me, I've been turned down for Jobs or even sacked from the Job i got because i lied to get the job, my old man constantly warned me when i was younger but I never listened thinking I knew it all, I didn't.

Only certain people can gamble and stay in control but you clearly can't,  your habit is steadily spiraling out of control so basically YOU CAN'T GAMBLE!

You can fix a small problem now Alfie and then start living a good normal life or you can keep going and get deeper and deeper, don't age and look back with regrets mate, those regrets can haunt you,  life is short mate and one day you will look back, we all look back and think, You've already looked back in regards to you and your old man playing the £5 Jackpots, but this situation is now in your hands, you are the only person that can repair it,  You have it all before you, great times or bad, we all know the right path you should take, you know it too, I wish I had taken the right path but I gambled and lost, we don't get anther life to fix what we done wrong, this is it Alfie, this is our chance, we're here once mate.

Remember mate

Right now TODAY,  you only need a shovel, it's just a small hole, don't make it bigger. 

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And I already Know the TV Casino was Channel 5's Supercasino 

Have a read and make up your own mind, link below done by me.

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@Bangers

Thanks for your wise words mate stopping isn't going to be easy I've basically logged into a casino or walked into a bookmakers every day for the past 1,000 days of my life

Then again stopping now and filling the hole is going to be a heck of a lot easier than needing a JCB and years of misery to repay debts if I carry on

I'll keep updating my thread as and when I make progress but I need to remember that even when I sort out the mess and fill the hole I cant gamble as I'm not in a state to control it

Just gotta take it one day at a time and think about what I can spend my money on once I'm free

 

Cheers

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@Bangers Yeah it was SuperCasino don't think there on Channel 5 anymore (Channel 5 must have seen sense) although the same company is still behind Jackpot 24/7 on ITV

The spins are horrible the experience is awful and the withdrawal process is shocking 

If only I'd of learned the lesson by these thieves I wouldn't be in the position I am but then I can't blame others for my actions just got to look to the future 

I think the trustpilot score tells the story some of the reviews are worth a read here

 

 

 

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You will certainly get plenty of support from the members here Alfie. Like others have already said, there are people from all walks of life, with different ages and backgrounds.What we all have in common is we are all gamblers and we all share the same problems that can arise from it. I worked in a factory for many years and it was either horses or cards amongst the older lads or fruit machines and later the dreaded FOBT machines amongst my age group. A servere change in my health brought my gambling to an abrupt end and I have found watching the streams that Paul and the Bandit do are enough to scratch the itch. I do miss it still but life has thrown me a bad beat so I just have to get on with it. You are still young enough to make the changes before you become a career gambler. There is always someone on here to chat to if you hit a rough patch. Good luck lad. 😉

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@PATTY1974

Thanks for the reply and encouragement

I think just posting on the forum and having a kind of "log" for me to see my progress is a start the forum has been amazingly welcoming for me and its nice to talk to people that come from different backgrounds and walks of life who have all experienced similar problems or sensations to myself

I've not told many people and the people that I have told have mostly said just stop but as we all know its not that easy as @Bangers and yourself have said though I don't want to be a career gambler needing that JCB to dig me out of years of regret

To look on the positive side at least I've finally realized it now after 3 years and not 30 I could be in a lot worse of a position there's only me that can change it now

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It’s not an easy thing to give up for sure and I know people that for them it is an everyday battle to keep out of the bookies or off the online casinos. People with families who mean everything to them but the lure of a “dead cert” can undo years of work. I wasn’t in that category to be fair as I kept it under control but just like a hot streak, where everything is golden, life can throw you a curveball and it can change everything. Life was going along quite nicely until about 3 years ago, something that started as pins and needles in my fingers turned out to be a rare spinal condition with a brain tumour for good measure. Unfortunately the tumour can’t be removed so it’s countless hospital visits for the foreseeable future so very little time to gamble and very little money. I keep a positive outlook for my wife and sons benefit but feeling sorry for myself won’t do me any good. There are people way worse off than me so I just get on with it. The point is that it was and is out of my control. You can get a hold of this problem and the day will come where you have a family of your own to focus on. I hope you continue with the positive attitude and feel free to chat anytime you need to....it does help. 😉

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@Alfie can only reiterate what others have said so plenty of support here for you when you need it.

It's so good you've acknowledged the problem at such a young age. It you keep on the right track and pay the debts off your life can be whatever you want it to be, but not if you continue to gamble.

Gambling is no fun if you are gambling with the need to win rather than the hope of winning.

Good advice on here so please take notice of it.

There are people on here including myself who have 40 years of gambling behind them with nothing to show for it so it's probably a bit late for a fresh start.

Not for you though. Embrace the change and move on with positivity and focus on the good things in life. Look forward to your next adventure, not your next deposit

Good luck mate and don't forget always someone here for you.

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@Alfie Welcome to TGC. Your story has a common thread which we all share.  when we were young we all believed that life would deal us a fair hand,and in your case it seems that Gambling came purely from a lack of purpose in your life.  As a result the temptations of easy money have turned you into an addict.  Gambling addiction  can easily be overcome if you set rules that work :

1) You are young and have family around to support your pathway out of the despair.

2) Give your Parents your money to safeguard in a separate account ,and ask them to set up direct debits to clear the debts over a fixed period.

3) Allow yourself a reasonable amount of free cash to live your life simply , without the need to gamble.

4) During the period , which should be about 18 months , you must learn to stand alone.  

5) Once the period is over and the debts have been cleared you must have been free of Gambling for 18 months. 

6) Find alternative sources of pleasure and relaxation, make new friends, go to the gym, walk in the country,  live your life fully.

7) Eat well, rest well, work hard, and stop lying about your circumstances to your family. 

😎 Do not borrow, beg,or steal money .

Finally the TGC runs frequent competitions  which will divert your attention form the need to Gamble ,whilst engaging the need to compete.  If you apply the rules laid out above you will be free , if you don't then you will have only yourself to blame. You are not a victim, your choices are obvious, and many of the people on here have had a much worse and prolonged experience of this contagion that is greed. 

No bullshit, no lies , no explanations necessary , just be yourself, and thank God you have a family around you , who may assist you , but ultimately its down you !!!

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Hi @Alfie, not going to add to the great posts of TGC, stay strong, take one day at a time, and good luck. 

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Welcome Alfie 

 

I'm currently away (up a 🌲) but will respond properly (if) I return.

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I can only echo what has been said above .   I would add that you should try and clear your debts in some sort of order with a plan.   On the  largest debts pay the minimum at first at the same time you should clear the smallest card with the biggest payment you can afford.   Leave yourself some money to "live"  each week including having time with mates .  When you have cleared a debt you will feel so much better and will start to see an end to it.    Also cut up your cards to stop you using them ( maybe keep one for emergencies with your parents)   Also people who do not have a gambling addiction often cannot understand the need or urge to have a bet so please do not be afraid to come on here for support or further advice as most people on here will understand it.

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I myself try to Quit gambling. I'm currently on day 16. I've faith. And god knows it's not easy.

I now ask myself every single day.

Do i want to live for the thrill of gambling worth than 5 secs ? ... be poor, depressed, angry, chasing losses all my life to fuel this addiction ?

Gambling is no longer fun for me. I'm remembering how much i've lost and how much it affected me.

16 days seems to be nothing ... but for a gambler ... it's a BIG achievement. And do you know what mate ? I'm more happy when i'm not gambling.

If i can do 16 ... i can do 30 .. 60 days and so on ...

Don't give up, it's worth it. You're not alone. You've all the support you need here trust me. 

 

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Hi mate 

 

Good to see a post were someone is taking responsibility for there actions instead of blaming everyone else 

 

first thing I will say is £4000 is not a big debt it might seem like that but it isn't , Credit cards etc aren't a priority debt - Depending on who your credit card providers contact them, explain the situation ( don't hold back ) you will usually find if you write to them or email there ceo ( ceoemail) that they will be understanding and agree to a small repayments and freeze the interest. 

So U owe

£1500 - offer them ( £25 a month repayment ) 

£1500 - offer them ( £25 a month repayment )

£600 - offer them ( £20 a month repayment)

£300 - offer them ( £10 a month repayment)

£350 - offer them ( £15-20 a month repayment ) 

So all together that's around £100 a month in repayments, If you earn £1200 then pay your bills and rent , Pay the £100 a month repayments , Put some away in savings and keep some for living costs ( as no one wants to work and have no spare income at the end of it ) And your remaining balance once you have done all that put that towards one of these debts -

Example if you have £275 remaining after paying bills , rent , repayment plans  , putting some in savings and lving costs . Use it to pay off ur £300 debt so next month that's one less debt to worry about 

 

DO NOT CONTACT these credit card companies over the phone as you will be bullied into making payments you cant afford , The best way is to email there ceo and someone from the executive office will usually contact you quite quickly . Explain the whole situation ask for them to freeze interest and cancel your card and offer to pay the above amounts . If you care about your credit rating do no accept a reduce offer from them ( they will often say as a one time offer instead of paying back £1500 if you can pay £900 in the next 3 months then your debt will be cleared ) hat they don't tell you is on your credit file it will show as a partial payment 

 

If you can work overtime do it but don't work too much as you can burn yourself out , and when your tired and fed up working long hours but nothing to show for it then its easy to say fuck lets go to the casino or place a bet 

 

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If you need any help getting the contact details of were to write to contact then send me a pm mate -

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Hey mate, again echoing the great advice already mentioned above!

If you move your finances are out of your hands it immediately takes a lot of pressure and temptation away. 

Gambling win or lose will only make things worse, I hear people say 1 more big win and I'll quit, nobody with that mindset will quit after a big win or if they do it won't be for long!

@Alfie I hope you can keep the thread updated and would love to see the day you post the last bit of debt paid off!

 

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These posts is why i love the TGC so much. The friendlyness and sincere help here 🙂

 

 @Alfie - i honestly cant add a thing to whats already been said. It maybe could also help to talk with a professional about this all. I wish you the very best mate, and if any of us can be of a bit of help, let us know 🙂

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11 hours ago, Alfie said:

if it comes in I can put it towards a holiday or treat my parents for all the rubbish I've put them through with my gambling" despite having a problem I like to think I'm not actually a bad kid.

You can still do this Alife but without the Gambling. 

And by the way, nobody will ever Love you more on this planet than Yur Mum and Dad 

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Hi all thanks for all the kind words of encouragement over the past 24 hours it really does mean a lot and helps me to fight my problems one day at a time.

I have been to the bank today and deposited £850 towards my debts it could have been more if I hadn't have wasted so much money but its in the past now and I've just got to keep moving and slowly dig myself out of the hole I got myself into 

My debts are now the following 

Credit card £650 (was £1500)

Credit card £1500

Credit card £300

Credit card £600

Overdraft £350

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Total debt £3400 (was £4250)

 

Debt plan

March : £850 DONE

April    £850

May    : £850

June   : £850

July     : £850

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Total    : £4250 = debts cleared 

This leaves me with around £150 a week to live on for the next month with all bills paid so shouldn't be too difficult and what I miss out on will only be for a short time. Short term pain = long time gain.

 

1st day free has been completed don't want to run before I can walk but its got to be a good thing right ?

 

Cheers for your continued support 

 

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The main thing is..............

You are coming OUT the hole, not going down deeper  👍

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2 hours ago, Alfie said:

Hi all thanks for all the kind words of encouragement over the past 24 hours it really does mean a lot and helps me to fight my problems one day at a time.

I have been to the bank today and deposited £850 towards my debts it could have been more if I hadn't have wasted so much money but its in the past now and I've just got to keep moving and slowly dig myself out of the hole I got myself into 

My debts are now the following 

Credit card £650 (was £1500)

Credit card £1500

Credit card £300

Credit card £600

Overdraft £350

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Total debt £3400 (was £4250)

 

Debt plan

March : £850 DONE

April    £850

May    : £850

June   : £850

July     : £850

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Total    : £4250 = debts cleared 

This leaves me with around £150 a week to live on for the next month with all bills paid so shouldn't be too difficult and what I miss out on will only be for a short time. Short term pain = long time gain.

 

1st day free has been completed don't want to run before I can walk but its got to be a good thing right ?

 

Cheers for your continued support 

 

@Alfie speed is seductive.....it feels great to clear a debt, however before you lies a long road to freedom. One day at a time , one month at a time , one payment at a time,  but don't be fooled. Time s a great healer, but for a Gambler Time must be filled with purpose or you will surely fail !! 

Its great you have bitten the bullet and made the first payment ..... and when you've cleared all the debt then you will be proud of the stand you took...... but don't look back and don't hesitate to seek advice..... 

The courage you need comes from Love and wisdom, not haste and fear ..... so relax and enjoy each day of purpose...

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